with Courage

Mediation, 1:1 Coaching, and Group Support for People Navigating Divorce or Separation

Facilitated by Hayden Lilien (She/Her)

J.D., M.B.A., Certified Family Mediator

Current Offerings

Ongoing Weekly Group

This group is for people at all stages of divorce or separation. Whether you are just deciding to separate

or you are starting to rebuild your life again.

With structure and guidance, we create a safe space for the following:

  • Addressing legal, financial, and logistical aspects of divorce
    • Division of assets, spousal support, child support, parenting plans
  • Discerning clear steps forward
  • Receiving support from a community in a similar chapter of life
  • Reflecting and taking stock to learn from what’s happened

This group will meet weekly on Zoom each Thursday from 12:00 to 1:00 PST

To learn more and register click here

meet your facilitator

Hayden Lilien (She/Her)

J.D., M.B.A., Certified Family Mediator, Divorce Coach


I am a divorcee. I am a mother. I am a lover and a seeker of undefended truth and deep connection.

I am also a Family Mediator and Divorce Guide who has helped countless individuals and couples navigate all aspects of their unique divorce process.

I am a lawyer, with an M.B.A., and come ready to support the emotional, logistical, and financial aspects of your separation.

I have seen all the ways this chapter can unfold and hold each one as a sacred opportunity to reclaim parts of yourself long forgotten.

What do I do? What will it feel like? How will I find my way afterward?

Have you recently left or are you contemplating leaving your relationship? Are you wondering about the whats and hows?

Through Individual Guidance, Group Support, or Mediation we will work together to make the best, most sustainable decisions for you and your family.

Divorce Guidance for Individuals...

Nuts and Bolts - Logistical Support

As an advocate, confidant, and trusted advisor, I will be your best divorce friend.

I'll guide you through the nuts and bolts of divorce. I will support you to:

Determine the legal steps required for divorce.

Work on finances and budgets.

Review and edit external communications to lawyers, spouses, etc.

Plan your negotiation strategy for child/spousal support, division of assets, parenting plans, timeshares, etc.

Address all the financial, legal, and emotional unknowns to help you decide if you want to divorce.

Talk to your partner and children about separation.

balance and harmony for your soul

heart & soul

emotional support

Addressing the logistics will help put your mind at ease and allow us to bring awareness to the deeper parts of your emotional process.

Divorce is a step into the unknown. You may be scared, grieving, overwhelmed, excited, and everything in between. There is room for your entire experience.

Being with and learning from the fullness of your experience will allow you the space to dream into your next chapter!

As your divorce guide i will...

  • Be your best divorce friend.
  • Care about what you are going through, keep you in my heart, and support you both logistically and emotionally.
  • Be a safe place for you to share your entire experience.
  • Explore all the options but not advise you to get divorced or not get divorced. With my guidance, you will come to your own clear and confident decision.
  • Keep what we share completely confidential.
  • Be patient when you get stuck in old patterns and stories.
  • Not rush your process.
  • Help quiet your worry and overwhelm by co-creating a clear path forward.
  • Hold the sacredness and immensity of this journey with you!

Take this first step by reaching out and I will be there with you to take the rest.

group support

Ongoing group sessions

  • Groups will meet on Zoom

  • We will...
    • dive into common themes
    • share stories and resources
    • hear from experts in the field
    • feel a sense of community in the shared experience

  • You will have access to a private Facebook group where you can ask questions and reach out for care and guidance.


Complete an entire divorce without the pain or cost of going to court

As a Mediator, I serve as a neutral third party helping couples resolve a wide range of family issues without resorting to litigation

Reasons to Mediate

It is cost-effective and time efficient

The parties, not a judge, retain control to create sustainable agreements that fit their unique set of needs

A third-party neutral is there to bridge communication and interrupt relational patterns

When parties sucessfully mediate, they often have an easier time commuicating and coming to agreements in the future

It benefits the children when parties resolve conflict in a dignified and time effective manner

The process is confidential

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